Parenting a teenager can feel like navigating a minefield, especially when they start engaging in risky behaviour such as experimenting with drugs. It’s natural to worry, but panic often pushes teens away. Support begins with staying connected.
Begin by listing your concerns, then focus on what’s truly dangerous or illegal. Let go of the rest for now. Teenagers test boundaries as they grow. Accepting that their views may differ opens the door to honest dialogue.
“A calm, well-informed conversation is far more effective than a lecture”
Be honest about your emotions. Saying, ‘I’m worried’ can go a long way, as long as it’s coming from a place of concern, not control. Ask questions with curiosity, not suspicion: ‘Can you help me understand what’s going on?’. Give clear, balanced information. A calm, well-informed conversation is far more effective than a lecture.
If they’re not ready to talk, you could leave a book or article where they’ll see it, or send it via a text message, without any pressure or expectation. Parents should read it too, in case it sparks future conversation. Timing can also help. Walks, car journeys or mealtimes may create a more relaxed space for difficult topics.
If you unexpectedly discover your teenager doing something you disapprove of, whether it’s substance use or another risky behaviour, your initial response matters. Saying, ‘I’m not here to tell you off, but I think we should talk about this later when we’ve both had time to think’ signals care without confrontation.
Most importantly, nurture connection, not just when problems arise, but as part of everyday life. Relationships built on trust and warmth make difficult conversations easier. Look for simple ways to connect on their terms, even if it’s just spending time together doing something they love.
If your teenager resists support, find someone who can support you. A calm, informed parent is better placed to guide a teen.
